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I recently met a woman at a local event who was instantly drawn to me. As usual there was learning for me to share with all of you. It was a revelation how we as women wear our societal labels.
I recently met a woman at a local event who was instantly drawn to me. As usual there was learning for me to share with all of you. It was a revelation how we as women wear our societal labels.
As I worked my way through the crowd this woman sought me out and couldn’t wait to introduce herself to me. She excitedly stuck out her hand to warmly grab mine and with that her introductory words were; “Hi, I’m so and so, the ex- Mayor of so and so, you know the Mayor who was accused and sentenced for stealing money from the town of so and so." Honest to God that was exactly how she introduced herself to me. She used her name but instantly inserted her title of shame, condemnation and self loathing. Apparently, she was now in the business of punishing herself.
How many of us tell our story like that in an introduction? Maybe not so blatantly, but I promise you if you stop to look at how you present yourself to the world you will see a piece of your story in there. For a lot of years I felt like I needed to wear the Red Scarlet Letter across my chest. Although I never opened with that as an introduction I felt like everyone could see it. So, perhaps the ex- Mayor just wanted to get it right out in the open. Truth be told, as it is with most cases I didn’t know her or anything about her, but she sure as heck was teaching me how to treat her and think about her. Interestingly enough we do that with every single relationship we have. We teach people how to treat us by the boundaries we impose and, more importantly, the boundaries we do not impose.
How many of us tell our story like that in an introduction? Maybe not so blatantly, but I promise you if you stop to look at how you present yourself to the world you will see a piece of your story in there. For a lot of years I felt like I needed to wear the Red Scarlet Letter across my chest. Although I never opened with that as an introduction I felt like everyone could see it. So, perhaps the ex- Mayor just wanted to get it right out in the open. Truth be told, as it is with most cases I didn’t know her or anything about her, but she sure as heck was teaching me how to treat her and think about her. Interestingly enough we do that with every single relationship we have. We teach people how to treat us by the boundaries we impose and, more importantly, the boundaries we do not impose.
Take a moment and think about what’s showing up in your life. Who are you surrounded with? How do they support you on your highest path to self acceptance? Is it time to tell a new story? Before you can tell it you have to create it. Begin today by noticing yourself talk. Simply by thinking it so it becomes so. You are whole and complete and gracefully designed by Source. Hold your head high and let the Light fill your Soul and I promise you will begin to tell a new story.
To conclude; the ex- Mayor is way more than her title she shared with me. It turns out she is a wonderful woman who simply wants to be loved and accepted for who she is and she longs to put the past behind her. Keeping true to form I always find an appropriate place to inject humor and this was no different; she asked me, the life coach, for some tips on how she could meet a man and be happy. My answer to her was “Oh, I don’t know, maybe you could lose the introduction of Hi, I’m so and so, the ex – Mayor of so and so, you know the Mayor who was accused and sentenced for stealing money from the town of so and so.” We shared a laugh together and she said to me I never really thought that was possible until now.
To conclude; the ex- Mayor is way more than her title she shared with me. It turns out she is a wonderful woman who simply wants to be loved and accepted for who she is and she longs to put the past behind her. Keeping true to form I always find an appropriate place to inject humor and this was no different; she asked me, the life coach, for some tips on how she could meet a man and be happy. My answer to her was “Oh, I don’t know, maybe you could lose the introduction of Hi, I’m so and so, the ex – Mayor of so and so, you know the Mayor who was accused and sentenced for stealing money from the town of so and so.” We shared a laugh together and she said to me I never really thought that was possible until now.
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