In my Action coaching programs I often run into people with big plans and dreams of a successful future. They dream of having the perfect body, the best relationships, financial security, a clear mind, and a connection to something larger then themselves. They strive for a purpose driven, vibrant life. All of these people have the ability to achieve all of their dreams. Each has the power to create the life of their desires. The area that always seems to be the tripping point is the next step: Action.


Think back to when you were a child.  Did you have a special career in mind?  A passion to be a police officer, or a dancer, or perhaps a painter? When you got older and entered  high school, did you discover a talent for debate?  For shop class?  Is there something that really stuck with you?  Something from those childhood joys that is with you today? For instance, did your love of debate lead you into practicing law?


Ultimately we are all looking for security and women entrepreneurs are no exception. It is a difficult realization when our clients/customers leave us. We make it personal and maybe even allow it to put us in fear.


You’ve probably heard the statement “Begin with the end in mind” sometime in your life.  It is a great guiding principle and also one you might fail to use when getting caught up in the many details that are part of planning and goal setting.  When a group is involved in creating a plan, the process can become even more complicated as various parties jockey to get their ideas heard and incorporated.  Like me, you’ve probably endured far too many meetings wondering if a plan would ever be conceived.
_I used to think life should be lived LARGE, in a BIG way with grandeur and opulence to even be worth living. To be somebody you had to “have it all.”  I suppose that was the notion of my youth.  I bought into the messages of those around me. I also bought into the media’s messages about how I was suppose to live, what I was supposed to look like, how thin to be, and what I should have to be happy. I was young and didn’t know any better.

Many people loose sleep because they cannot quiet their thinking. They are stressed out with worry and frustrations. We all experience numerous disappointments. Our expectations go unmet, our plans are blocked by outside circumstances, and our wishes go unfulfilled. Our lives are subject to a myriad of forces beyond our conscious control. More often than not we react with a tension that permeates our bodies and minds. Small frustrations such as interruptions at work and sitting in traffic wield such power over us because they rob us of the illusion of control. You cannot distance yourself from life's inconsistencies, irritations, and upheavels, but you can relinquish your desire for perfect order. When we stop worrying about things we have no control over, we can be at peace, and devote more of ourselves to what is truly important to us.

If you're a "boomer" like me, you probably had a similar career vision, carried down by our parents and grandparents:
Go to school, study hard, get good grades.
Go to college, study hard, get good grades.
Get a good job, study hard, get good reviews.
Good reviews lead to job security and advancement.
Eventually, retire from that job, get your gold watch, and live on your pension and social security.

If you have ever felt like a failure…
If you have ever thought you’ve found “the answer” to your next career, your single-person-woes or how to finally be happy… only to discover you were wrong…
If you are ready to stop feeling like a failure and start feeling like a success right now
If so, then this article will be the most exciting and important message you’ll ever read!

Let me explain…

What It Is Not

Before I tell you what the real problem is, let me tell you what it is not.
The problem is not that you make mistakes.

When did I ask you to judge me?

I choose not to judge you because I am not fully aware of your experience nor do I understand the undertakings of your soul and what lessons you seek to learn in this lifetime. Far be it for me to judge that which I have no knowledge of. Rather I choose to accept you just exactly as I find you and honor your journey. I know what you do is perfectly right for you. It may not be in alignment with my truth but certainly it is yours. I respect and honor that. I wish you well no matter your path.ur new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar.

Time to 'fess up - I don't always practice what I preach. **gasp!!** I have always strongly resented people telling me who I should be, what I should believe, what I should do. "Should" is a nasty swear word that means that whatever you are, believe or do is WRONG. I believe in everyone having their own journey and their own beliefs, and their God given right to those, and I would never presume to judge the rightness or wrongness of their life. What I find myself overcoming now is a tendency to hear words of discomfort, pain, struggle, hurt, anger, fear, and a desire to immediately redirect the person, teach them there are other ways. So, I'm learning to not respond to the words I hear, and to allow the person to feel what they feel. I prefer to shine my own light, and if someone ASKS me for feedback then I'm happy to say how I overcame my own discomfort, pain, struggle, etc etc.